comparing

The other day, a friend of mine lamented, “I wish my younger one would be as sociable as the older one”. I guess as parents, we tend to compare our kids with their siblings and sometimes even with other kids.

I know I do that mentally sometimes. Nothing to feel guilty about because making comparisons can give you ideas about how you (or your child) can get better at what they’re doing.

But I try very hard (and succeed to a large extent) not to make open comparisons. I’m no child psychologist but I know this. Open comparisons can be damaging to a child’s self esteem and may have a long-term effect on their personality.

In my opinion, every child is different. They can’t help it (and neither can we) so we should try to accept them for what they are instead of making them into something they’re not.

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